Don’t go away, stay a little more…

Last Sunday my bestest friend moved out of the country.

He’s from Germany and for the past 5 years he’s been willing to go back, and for the past 2 he’s been actively searching for jobs there. (I sorta told his story here once…)

So now it finally happened. He is happy and I’m happy for him.


It hurts so much to see your best friend go to live 5,000 miles away from you…
Having lunch together won’t be as easy as a quick drive to his office building, even chat won’t be as easy as real time due to the time differences…

So in this post today I share a song that has been on my mind ever since he got the job offer and confirmed the date he’d be going.
The song is in Portuguese, so I also share the link with the lyrics and translation, below the video:

Lyrics translation:

Bis später, mein Freund!

Fiction: If I came with a warning label

If I came with a warning label, people may not like me much.
My secrets and sins would be disclosed. And that’s not good.

If a warning label would be attached to every person, then everyone would know about their secrets and sins. And get mad, and get hurt, and get away.

No, I don’t want a warning label on me. And I don’t want to read warning labels on others.

They’re to do more damage than good to friendships or any other kind of relationship.

So I keep my secrets to myself.
I go about life being true to myself, being honest when I fell like, and sometimes false, pretending to be someone else.
And I’m ok with this. And people are ok with this too, because that’s what they do.

And we get along….

This post was written in response to the Mini Writing Prompt Challenge: If I Came with a Warning Label. . . #bravewarninglabelchallenge

Weekly Writing Challenge: Mail It In – Today I almost…

I love emails!

Just love them.
Although I was considered and extrovert when we took the Myers-Briggs training, and although every single person on Earth who knows me agrees to that, when it comes to talk seriously I get shy.
And that’s where and when email comes in handy.
I can say anything to anyone in email. But I can’t face-to-face.
Don’t know why.
Maybe the person’s presence intimidates me, and when email takes the presence out, then intimidation goes away and I can express myself a little better.
At work, I also prefer email, not only because of the above, but also because it serves as a record and can be used for future reference (my inbox is H-U-G-E, with very little being deleted… )

So for this week’s challenge, I’m forwarding to you an email that changed my life.
Last year I was feeling pretty depressed.
But in spite of knowing I was depressed and knowing that I was the only one who could do anything about it, I was doing nothing.

Until I started bugging a friend with my problems.
And what a friend!!!
The best ever!
He is the kind of person who is always there for his friend, and always finds time to help a friend in trouble, and last year I was in trouble.

So here is a thread that we exchanged over the course of a couple of months, but culminated with the email that’s on top (there were further communication after that, but this is the one I claim to have changed my live).
On the email he suggests me a few changes on my diet to help me go through depression.
I took it and it helped.
In only a week I was feeling a different person.
Of course depression didn’t go away in only a week or with diet change only, but that was certainly the start of the end of it.

So here it is…
I just hope someone out there can also benefit from it.
And sorry if it turned out too long.

(and BTW, I tried posting by email, but still needed to edit later, to get the pictures at the right position… It was still nice to learn how to do it, though. ;o)


From: My Friend
Sent: Thursday, June 23, 2011 7:12 PM
To: Me
Subject: RE: Today I almost…


I totally know what you are talking about, and my heart goes to you.Totally. In a way, that is the downside of parenting: you prioritize kids higher than yourself — which it completely natural, unselfish and instinctual – and you end up being depressed like the bunny above.

I am going to suggest a few things, and you are not allowed to say“I do not like how that tastes!”. Nope. 🙂

This is your breakfast.

Hard Boil some eggs, like a dozen every week. It takes 10 minutes to do this.

Every morning, eat one or two with a slice of cheese (any cheese you like, fatty or not), and drink water. Take one mega-pill of Multivitamins, Niacin, or Chromium with food.

For Lunch. Eat at work, and get plain meats and greens only. Fish is great, too, but leave rice alone. No Pizza, No Potatoes, No Mexican, No sandwiches. No rabbit stew if you can help it. 🙂

Back home.

Buy lots of cold cuts (salami, chicken or turkey breast, ham, whatever you like) in the supermarket. I buys spiral Ham by the pound. (Animal fat does not stick to you because there are no carbs in the meat).

Buy a variety of Plain yogurt (I recommend Fat Free, cus Milk Fat is bad).

Get Trim Cottage cheese, cheese’s you like, etc.

Get Tomatoes, Lettuce, and other veggies that are not starchy. Buy Hummus, and other kinds of testy salty treats.

When you get cravings, take the bags of salami, veggies and milky products, and eat standing like fingerfoods. It will take 5 minutes, and you will be full. Your body knows when you had enough meet and proteins. In an hour, eat again.

Do this for ONE week, and all your sweet cravings will be gone. I promise… and you will be jumping around, full of energy. 🙂 like the bunny below

So, remember, it is simple. All you need is to have the right ingredients on hand.

<My Friend>

PS: I am feeling that I am in the Ketosis state (when your body uses its own fat for energy). That is the state where you are melting away. Plus I feel very energized, and I am not angry, depressed, or absent minded. Please, try.


Sent: Thursday, June 23, 2011 5:18 PM
To: My Friend
Subject: RE: Today I almost…


Thanks for your support/help/reply/caring/friendship (hard to choose the word here. Maybe just thanks for you! ).

Yes, let’s talk about it some day over lunch or walk (I guess I have too much alcohol on me now to even write… I’m just back from a team morale event that ended in a brewery… 😉

But I do know that your bolded suggestion can help and it’s one of the things that I always try to do,but I must confess that after bathing and feeding the girls having a sandwich is always the easiest way to go, hence cutting carbs is always a very hard thing. And also, it’s kind of a chicken/egg issue: the more depressed I get, the more I crave sweets (chocolate specifically) and I do know that the more I have them the less overall energy I’ll have (all the sugar/carb story you know about) and the more I’ll crave them… and finally on this mood I have being lately it gets even harder to get the motivation for such a change of behavior…

Anyway. Let’s meet some of these days.

Let me know how your schedule looks like, since you’re the busiest one between us…





From:My Friend
Sent: Thursday, June 23, 2011 12:02 PM
To: Me
Subject: RE: Today I almost…

I am sorry that you are feeling blue. (I get that way during the summers; mainly because I am a big baby tat hates heat and is miserable when it’s over 25 C. Weh.)

Can you ask yourself if you have any things in your life that bother you: relationship with yourself, husband, or the kids? Money worries? Aging? Worries about home/parents? Health concerns? These are often low-level pressures that add up if we do not address them as they occur. Sometime, personal procrastination and disengagement with our own issues catch up with us. We can talk about this. Talking sometimes brings the issues into awareness, and enable you to deal with the issues… and the pressures evaporate as you engage.

Another healthy thing to do is to look at the organic issues: mood, happiness or depressions are other influenced by the internal chemistry. You may be carrying too much environmental toxins/poisons in you, or not enough other nutrients. I know this to be a major issue I overlooked for most of my 40+ years. I am now taking Vitamin D and Niacin, which are in turn lowering down my cholesterol and acceleration my metabolism, and in turn, I am so much happier. I mean, it’s like taking an overdose of Prozac, except it is all natural and not at all dopey. Also, I am eating no carbs at all for a week now, and I think this is a fix in itself.

Lastly, are you doing what you were meant to do? Do you think you are achieving your life dreams? Does this matter to you? I mean, let’s face it: when you are doing what you like to do, your mind gets into a happier state by default. Note: this is probably not a cause, but a side issue, if at all. A happy person recognizes issues like these and deals with them.

Let me know if you want to talk about it. There are a few things you can do while you are thinking about it: remove all sugars and carbs from your diet and take a mega-multivitamin with food every day. Also, if you have any food that you just love, love, love: remove it from your diet. And give it a week.

<My Friend>


Sent: Thursday, June 23, 2011 11:02 AM
To: My Friend
Subject: RE: Today I almost…

Hi there.

Me again bothering you with my problems… Sorry…

But this week a guy from my team went on leave due to depression/stress.

That makes me wonder if I shouldn’t be doing anything to make me get out of this not-so-well mood before it reaches a point that I need to take a leave like the guy.

The work context is different. He was under much more pressure and having to deal with politics in the group, and also his personality is of a person who stresses out very easily, which is not my case.

But still, it’s been a while that I haven’t been feeling too well and I don’t think I’m really doing anything to change that…

And answering you question from the old email below, it’s not only about work. Work is the easiest to blame and to want to change, but I feel a bit weird about everything now.

And this week I’m kindof back to the not-feeling-well phase (maybe the stars, maybe the review, maybe PMS, maybe the story of this poor guy…)

Oh well. Sorry again for keep dumping all of this on you.

See ya and thanks for listening 😉



From:My Friend
Sent: Wednesday, May 04, 2011 6:34 PM
To: Me
Subject: RE: Today I almost…


I am sorry that this is lasting for you for months. You are a “quiet smile” type of person, and I know you have incredible depth. I try not to pry, but I did sense some sadness, or at least low energy when we met last few times.

You may be totally right about the post partum depression. Your body was taxed with producing another baby – and your body was drained of all sorts of good juices – vitamins, minerals, nutrients. Plus, the shock to the body can mess up all sorts of hormones (serotonin being one of them) and there you have it – a depression comes.

How is the rest of your life, outside work?

I am oof tomorrow (taking a day off to unwind), but I will be here on Friday. Do you want to meet for lunch?


Sent: Wednesday, May 04, 2011 4:54 PM
To: My Friend
Subject: RE: Today I almost…

Damn stars!

Screwing up our feelings, perceptions and behavior!

Can we realign them somehow?


I’m usually a very positive person and I always think everything will be all right. The thing is that I’m feeling like that since I came back from parental leave, in August last year. And that’s why I’m starting to wonder if I’m at the right place. It’s just taking too long, and I guess people are starting to notice that I’m slacking more than really working. And I feel bad about it. Have always been a hard worker… 😦

And always proud to be a very positive person too…

I also feel sorry for you be feeling the same.

And if we can find anything funny in the bad things that happen, it’s kind of funny to hear that from you, because you are also someone I have always seen as a very positive, always smiling person. And to realize that you can also be feeling not good about something makes you look more real and also makes my problem seem smaller (it may sound terrible, but it’s always comforting when you realize other people have the same problems as you do. It’s just sad that it’s you, not some joe doe I don’t care about.)

So, let’s wait for it all to get better.

And if until then you need a prijatelj to cover you with a blanket, feel free to ping me.

And be sure I’ll ping you again too.

(and may search for help with EAP, maybe… let’s see… 😉 )




From:My Friend
Sent: Wednesday, May 04, 2011 4:27 PM
To: Me
Subject: RE: Today I almost…

Poor baby. I am sorry that you feel that way right now.

You know I am feeling a bit lost as well. And angry/frustrated. So we are totally doing different things but feel similar.

Do you believe in the cosmic influence? Something external is screwing with our feelings, perceptions, and sometimes even behaviors and we all feel like mumbling rumbling idiots. When in fact the brain waves are scrambled because of the stars.

Be OK with having a bad day or a week every now and then. It will get better. And during those days and week, just rely on the prijatelj to cover you with a puffy blanket and tell you when it’s over and the birds sing again.


Sent: Wednesday, May 04, 2011 4:17 PM
To: Mt Friend
Subject: RE: Today I almost…

Hi there,

I feel clueless and lost in thisjob…

I wonder if I’m in the right place.

Don’t feel motivated for a while now.

Maybe some kind of post partum depression, or just that I wasn’t born to do this job…

Oh well…

Sorry to keep bothering you with those kind of emails.

Just need a priatelj again…





Sent: Friday, March 25, 2011 2:59 PM
To: My Friend
Subject: RE: Today I almost…

Thank you for being such a great priatelj!

Frustration is with the planning for<Project>, so it won’t get resolved anytime soon, but it’s fine… Whatever!

I’ll just try to go by next week without stressing out too much and then on the following week I’ll be in sunny and warm Rio with my family and friends, not having to worry at all about fonts and lips and tools….

In the meanwhile, workout does help a lot, so I may be seen going for walks around the campus quite frequently… 😉

But if I feel really bad again next week I’ll call you for a coffee 😉

Have a wonderful weekend!



From:My Friend
Sent: Friday, March 25, 2011 2:46 PM
To: Me
Subject: RE: Today I almost…

Aaaaw. How sweet. I am here for you, so feel free to let me know when.

Your Serbian is impeccable. All is very correct and it sounds right, too.

Hope the frustration subsided and better yet, got resolved.

Hope you have a happy weekend and that the babies behave well, so you can nap, nap, nap. 🙂

<My Friend>


Sent: Friday, March 25, 2011 1:57 PM
To: My Friend
Subject: Today I almost…
Importance: Low

Sent you a meesage saying:

Treba mi priatelj danas

Got frustrated with something, but working out made my mood go up again…


Anyway just wrote now to show off my attempt to get some Serbian going…


Ps. If the sentence doesn’t make sense, blame on, and if the spelling for priatelj is not correct you can blame on me, since I was the one transliterating it from the Cyrillic…

This post was written in response to this week’s writing challenge. For more details on the challenge, check it out here.

I Love My BFFs!!!

Really do.

No, nothing special happened this week to trigger this post.

Just plain desire to share the love. ;o)

Sometime that happens to me. That I feel so much love that I start sharing it away. Usually I tell directly to the people I love, but the problem is that if it becomes repetitive it can lead them to misunderstand the type of love. Especially if we consider that my BFFs are all guys and I’m a married girl…

Oh well, just wanted to register the love I feel for them.